Pleasing God in a Self-Pleasing Culture
1 Thessalonians 4:1-5
"Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge [exhort] you in the Lord Jesus...that you abstain from sexual immorality [porneia]; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God"
"The man who lives to please himself is rarely pleased." (Pastor Chuck Smith)
It’s not about shame; it’s about honor. Honoring God with our bodies, honoring others by not using them, and honoring ourselves by refusing to be enslaved to our unchecked impulses.
In our culture today, everything is saturated with pornographic messages. Message that openly suggest that "if it feels good, do it", and our culture daily redefines the boundaries surrounding sex. Take a look at our culture; women today account for roughly 70–84% of creators "working" as "OnlyFans models", 3–3.8 million worldwide. A significant portion (hundreds of thousands) are women at the age of 18–24 or 18–34 ranges. It’s not the majority of women, but it is a visible and culturally influential subset, especially among younger generations.
The "passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God", speaks to the heart of what drives much of this pornographic industry. Sexual expression has been commodified and normalized, even presented as empowering. And the long-term fruit is often emptiness, objectification, relational damage, addiction, and regret. Exactly the self-pleasing cycle that rarely satisfies.
But the real scriptural takeaway shouldn't be tearing down humanity by simply pointing out its slutty habits. The gospel point isn't about dragging down people, it's about lifting, empowering with the Holy Spirit. Teaching people to please God. Helping people understand that they are being changed from glory to glory. Scripture doesn’t shame the body; it calls people a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:18–20) and urges them to offer their bodies as living sacrifices (Romans 12:1).
It’s not meant to be a mere rule-keeping or cultural finger-wagging, but instead a call to walk in a way that pleases God more and more, rooted in His will for our sanctification. In fact I find it interesting that Paul commends the Thessalonians for their good work so far, but in sure to encourage them to try even harder, to do more AND more.
"do this even more"
Why?
If they're pleasing God now, why do more?
I see this kind of like one of my college professors methods for marking and grading our work. She was teaching us to write, instructing us in literature and writing. And it seemed like you could never get better than a B grade, no matter what you did to improve. I spoke with her about this and she informed me, in a genuine and kind way, that none of us were doing a wonderful job of writing, but with each successive work we were hopefully improving on common mistakes. So early on, many mistakes aren't pointed out. She'd mark some for notice and hopefully improvement, and next time other things would be pointed out. I suppose the hope was that eventually you'd get most of the errors worked out and you could produce something worthy of an A grade, although that never happened in her class.
I liked her method, and it seemed honorable to me, and not unlike what Paul is driving at here in 1 Thessalonians. My literature professor wasn’t withholding an "A" out of cruelty or unreachable standards, she was progressively refining us, addressing what we were ready to handle at each stage so that real improvement could take root over time. Perfection wasn’t expected in one paper, but steady growth toward excellence was the goal. She was sanctifying our writing. Building skill without overwhelming or discouraging the students.
Why push for "more and more" if they were already pleasing God?
Because sanctification is progressive, not instant or complete in this life. Christian maturity has no finish line this side of eternity. No matter how far we’ve come in holiness, love, self-control, or pleasing the Father, there is always room to abound further. We can always grow more in love with God and in our holiness habits.
The basic desire for each of us should be to please God. That’s the key to the Christian life. The call isn’t "try harder in your own strength," but "abound more and more" as the Spirit works in us.
Keep up the good work, God is counting on you. Not in the sense that He is desperate or helpless without us (He is sovereign after-all), but in the sense that He delights in our faithful obedience and has chosen to work through us. He sees the progress we’ve already made. And He invites us to go deeper, because He is for us, not against us.
The man (or woman) who lives to please God has found real satisfaction…and the best is still ahead.