From Self-Preservation to Kingdom Instinct
Ephesians 5:29-30
"For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body..."
No one instinctively neglects or harms themselves, though they will likely choose to do many things throughout their lives that will make them miserable. Real life confronts us with countless counterexamples. People engaging in self-harm, addiction, reckless behaviors, eating disorders, chronic self-neglect, or patterns of sin that clearly lead to personal misery and destruction.
Paul is not making a universal psychological claim that no human being ever experiences self-loathing, self-destructive impulses, or actions that harm the body. Instead, Paul is appealing to a general, instinctive human reality rooted in creation and common experience. People need to eat, so they eat. They may eat things that are not doing them any good, but the instinct is the same, the need to feed.
Sin distorts the direction of that instinct without erasing the instinct itself. A healthy mind will make healthy choices. In a healthy state, this leads to choices that truly sustain (good food, rest, protection from harm). Yet, a sin-sick person may feed on junk that slowly poisons them, binging to numb pain, starving themselves in pursuit of control or perceived worth, or chasing addictive highs that feel like temporary "nourishment" for the soul’s distress. The underlying drive remains self-preservation or self-soothing; it’s just misdirected, shortsighted, or corrupted by lies, trauma, idolatry, or the flesh’s rebellion against God.
The principle is "everyone looks out for number one", however they are choosing to look. Self-preservation is the first law of nature. And those instincts will often override our sensibilities and conscience. And so, this isn’t mere selfishness in the moral sense; it’s a built-in mechanism for life itself. Hunger prompts eating, pain prompts withdrawal from danger, fatigue prompts rest. These instincts operate almost automatically, often overriding higher reasoning, conscience, or even moral conviction in moments of crisis or desperation.
These instincts were put to the test in the early church. Intimidation, threats of violence for preaching Jesus Christ, and the upheaval of their livelihoods. The early church is recorded praying for bold witness. Their desire was that they would overcome the fear and instinctual anxiety, praying for a bolder witness, a willingness to stand firm in the faith.
The instinct screams "survive first," and it’s not inherently evil; it’s the baseline mechanism for embodied life. Yet the gospel calls believers to a higher allegiance. When self-preservation clashes with obedience to Christ, the early church shows us what it looks like to let faith override instinct.
They didn’t pray for removal of the danger, or protection of their personal safety, as self-preservation instincts would have naturally leaned that way. Instead, they acknowledged God’s sovereignty.
"And now, Lord, look upon their threats and grant to your servants to continue to speak your word with all boldness, while you stretch out your hand to heal, and signs and wonders are performed through the name of your holy servant Jesus." (Acts 4:29-30)
This wasn’t stoicism or denial of fear; it was Spirit-empowered submission. Their desire was precisely to overcome the instinctual pull toward fear, silence, retreat, or self-protection. They prayed for the courage to stand firm, proclaim Christ, and advance the gospel despite the very real risks that triggered every self-preservation alarm. This wasn’t a one-off; the pattern repeats throughout Acts; boldness in the face of opposition becomes a hallmark of the Spirit-filled church.
Quite the contrast to the modern name-it-claim-it church, "Word of Faith" prosperity church, and the self-interested people who treat "church" like a vending machine. These prayer practices often focus on demanding or "declaring" material blessings, physical healing without exception, financial breakthroughs, and freedom from hardship; framing these as proofs of a strong faith. And like them, some seek security in the timeless traditions and successions, rather than obey the revealed word of God.
The contrast is clear, in the early church of Acts, prayer was kingdom-oriented. The "faith" was grounded in that purpose first and foremost, acknowledging God’s sovereignty over and above the threats, then pleading for boldness to proclaim Christ despite the danger. Not focused on material guarantees. Overriding self-preservation instincts they surrendered to God’s will, for the gospels advance. Their suffering wasn't seen as deficient faith, instead it was an opportunity to go even further into Christ kingdom purpose.
In our modern times, both paths; demanding prosperity as proof of faith or clinging to traditions as proof of orthodoxy, stem from the same root. A desire for a controllable, visible assurance rather than vulnerable trust in a sovereign God who may call us through suffering, obscurity, or disruption.
This challenges us to seek His kingdom first. To diminish our own strength by taking up the power of the Holy Spirit in prayers for a greater faith that draws nearer to Christ daily, following Him nearer in all things. A faith that sees Christ in everything day by day. A faith that loves Him more dearly, a faith that must struggle to do otherwise.
In a sense it's a prayer for a greater instinct to take hold of them. Not the natural, fallen instinct of self-preservation that so often overrides conscience, faith, or obedience, but a new, Spirit-wrought instinct born of regeneration and renewal. It’s the cry for the Holy Spirit to implant and strengthen a divine orientation within us.
This doesn’t happen overnight or by willpower. It grows through surrender in prayer, feeding on scripture and letting it wash and reframe our thoughts. Over time, faith becomes less effortful striving and more instinctive delight. The struggle remains, but the greater instinct prevails because it’s not ours; it’s His life in us.
So pray for that:
Lord Jesus, diminish our natural leanings; amplify Your Spirit’s power within us. Give us a heart for your gospel. In Your holy name, Amen.