Anxious for Nothing, Devoted to One: Hopelessly Devoted to Him
1 Corinthians 7:32a
"I want you to be free from anxieties."
Your marital status is not a report card on your spirituality. Both marriage and singleness are good gifts when received with thanksgiving and lived out daily for Christ. It's just that the apostle Paul realizes divided attention is not sin; it’s reality. If you’re married, it is right and holy to be concerned with your spouse’s needs. That is part of "pleasing the Lord" in your calling. And at the same time, singleness (whether lifelong or for a season) is a strategic advantage for ministry. Paul sees it as a kind of "special forces" capacity: fewer logistical burdens, more flexibility, deeper spiritual focus.
Paul wants people in the church to ask themselves: "In my actual circumstances, which path best secures undistracted devotion to Jesus right now?" He wants this because he understands that true blessed "happiness" is found most reliably in closeness to Christ, not in changing our relational status. For instance, the widow who remains single and close to Jesus is "happier" not because marriage is bad, but because nothing must compete with her first love.
The unchanging truth: Marriage is good, singleness is good, both can honor God.
The variable: Which one is wiser or even necessary depends on the historical moment and the spiritual health of the individuals involved.
In Paul's letter, 1 Timothy 5:3–16, the circumstances are different and the appropriate response should reflect that set of circumstances.
In Corinth (mid-50s AD): "Widows are happier if they remain single" (7:40)
In Ephesus (early to mid-60s AD): Young widows should "marry, bear children, manage their households" (5:14)
The problems in Corinth (sexual immorality) called for a different approach from the problems in Timothy's congregation (becoming idle, gossips, busybodies, saying things they should not). Different circumstances demand different applications of the same truth. In Corinth, the pressure was internal (sexual immorality, ascetic super-spirituality). In Ephesus, the pressure was external (slander from pagans and Jews who were watching the Christian church).
It all boils down to the spiritual gift of self-control. When a widow (or any single person) has the charism of contented singleness and the times are perilous (suffering persecution), remaining single really can make a person "happier/more blessed."
Protecting the church’s witness sometimes overrides personal calling. When young and/or old people lack that gift, having strong physical desires (the same "passion" of 1 Corinthians 7:9), and are in danger of falling into sin or discrediting the gospel, then marriage is the merciful, protecting choice.
Age, reputation, and character matter. The exhortation is guard your devotion to Christ, guard the reputation of Christ, and choose the path of greatest love in your actual situation.
Paul is not grading your spirituality by your ring finger. Marriage is a gift. Singleness is a gift. Both are from God, both can be lived wholly for Christ, and both come with different joys and different demands. Paul’s heartbeat is simple: he wants you free to love God with as much of your heart as your real-life circumstances will allow.
So ask yourself; not in fear, not under any cultural pressure, but standing before the Lord:
"Right now, in my body, in my church, my city, with all my burdens and my longings, what path best guards my devotion to Jesus and the reputation of Jesus?"
That measure is the responsibility of everyone who wants to call themselves "Christian". It’s why Jesus looked at the rich young ruler, loved him, and said, "One thing you lack: sell everything, give to the poor, and come, follow Me." It’s why He looked at the woman caught in adultery, refused to condemn her, and said, "Go and sin no more."
In both cases Jesus did the same thing He does with us: He exposed the one attachment that was competing with wholehearted allegiance, then invited the person to lay it down, whatever "it" was, and follow Him undistracted.
For some today, the competing attachment is the idol of marriage or the fear of singleness. For others, it is the idol of singleness or the fear of marriage.
Jesus simply wants the throne of our hearts uncluttered. He's not being harsh, he's just jealous for all of you, because He has already given all of Himself for you.
Prayer
Lord Jesus, I belong to You; body, future, longings, fears, everything.
Show me any attachment that is crowding You out.
Give me courage to lay it down and the grace to receive the season You have chosen for me.
Let my life be a wide-open yes to Your undivided claim on my heart.
Amen.