Bearing with One Another: Finding Hope in Humility
Romans 15:1-7
"We who are strong have an obligation to bear with the failings of the weak, and not to please ourselves. Let each of us please his neighbor for his good, to build him up. For Christ did not please himself, but as it is written, "The reproaches of those who reproached you fell on me." For whatever was written in former days was written for our instruction, that through endurance and through the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope. May the God of endurance and encouragement grant you to live in such harmony with one another, in accord with Christ Jesus, that together you may with one voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore welcome one another as Christ has welcomed you, for the glory of God."
Not everyone is going to see things in the right way that I see them. And so Paul here is telling me and you, that we must all make accommodations for people to see things wrong. And so we've got to respect the right of everyone to be wrong and not create a controversy or contention about our differences. He's saying we should disagree agreeably.
Accept the weaker brothers and sisters in the faith, walk in love with them, tolerate each other as best as possible and don't flaunt your liberty that might make another stumble.
We shouldn't walk in Christ in order to please ourselves.
And so, as believers, we’re called to bear with the weaknesses of others, not to assert our own strength or "rightness". Certainly we're going to study the scriptures and grow in our learning, rightly dividing the words and discerning from them, but not in order to please ourselves and win a debate. The true purpose of all these things is to create hope. Hope for ourselves and for others. As believers, our pursuit of scriptural truth and growth in discernment should never be about self-aggrandizement or winning arguments. Instead, studying and rightly dividing the Word (2 Timothy 2:15) equips us to love and serve others more effectively, bearing with their weaknesses with patience and grace. It’s about building up the body of Christ, not elevating ourselves.
When we approach Scripture with humility, we’re empowered to live out its truth in a way that fosters unity and reflects Christ’s self-sacrificial love.
Thought for the Day:
Unity in Christ doesn’t mean uniformity of opinion but a shared commitment to love and build one another up for God’s glory.
When disagreements arise, practice listening and responding with grace, seeking unity rather than contention. Examine your heart and pray for the Lord to remove your spirit of contention. Ask yourself, are there areas where you’re tempted to prioritize your own preferences or "rightness" over loving others? Ask God to help you walk in humility.
Identify one person in your life who may have different convictions or struggles in faith. How can you encourage or support them this week without judgment?
This doesn’t mean compromising truth but approaching differences with grace, patience, and love. Make your zeal about joining together with others, learning together, growing together, waiting on the Lord together, patiently finding hope together. Paul’s prayer is that we all live in harmony, glorifying God with one voice, welcoming others as Christ has welcomed us.
Confession:
I'm not living this. I pray daily to find this person in myself. And I fail. I'm quick to anger. Stubbornly unforgiving. Harsh words, unkind, impatient, even selfish. And I pray for these things to be resolved, quickly, I want it now!
Even in my prayers I'm not pleasing God, I'm trying to please myself.
I've got this huge plank in my eye, and I can see it. I suppose I'm so full of myself that I'm not concerned enough to remove that plank.
Some would say, "The desire to change, even if you feel you’re falling short, is evidence of God’s grace at work in you."
Maybe that's true, I don't disagree with that hope. But in the context of Romans 15, the beauty of this passage is its reminder that Scripture provides endurance and encouragement for hope (v. 4). None of us is alone in this struggle, and God’s patience with us is unending. He doesn’t demand instant perfection but invites us to rely on Him, step by step, to grow in love and humility.
I want to share a story to illustrate something about this tension. I was once at a state fair, and there was a booth there that you could visit where some Christian church had set up a sort of scripture game. And the banner over their booth said "are you going to heaven?" The game was set up to share certain key scriptures that you would read and then respond to. And then you would answer that question about whether or not you were going to heaven. So I read the scriptures and did what was asked of me and then when the man asked me the question I answered yes. But that wasn't the end of the test apparently because he asked me "how do you know?".
I thought for a minute, and puzzled, I looked at him, and I looked at his wife, who was there next to him, and then I said "oh, well, because of these scriptures here."
One of which was,
"being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus." - Philippians 1:6
And so I said to the man, "you had me read the scripture, and I believe it and trust in it, so that's how I know I'm going to heaven, because he promised me in His word that I would."
And then I looked at him again this time in the eye, and with a grin on my face, and I said, "you wouldn't want to take that away from me would you?"
He shook his head and he said "no".
And I said, praise God for that and have a nice day and I walked away.
I suppose I shared this story today because it illustrates how we want to test one another and instruct and inspire each other into holiness and ultimately salvation. But sometimes we establish these tests as more of an inquisition, and ironically miss from within the test itself, the very message of hope we're trying to find.
The follow-up question risked turning it into a debate rather than a celebration of that truth. This ties back to Paul’s exhortation: we who are strong ought to bear with the weak, not pleasing ourselves but seeking to edify others (vv. 1-2). It’s good a reminder that our pursuit of holiness and salvation should inspire unity and glorify God together, not create contention.
Friends, remember, He [Jesus] is not demanding perfection from us now; He’s the God of endurance and encouragement (v. 5), walking with us step by step. We've been chosen to walk with Him. Don't let others steal your joy and hope in Him, and don’t let your own self-condemnation steal that hope from you. Instead, lean even more on His unending patience.
Prayer:
Lord Jesus, king of the universe, thank You for the hope and endurance found in Your Scriptures, like the promise in Philippians 1:6 that You will complete the good work You’ve begun in us. Forgive me for the times I test others or myself harshly, missing Your message of grace. Help me remove the plank of pride and selfishness from my own eye, not in my own strength, but by relying on You. Teach me to interact with others in love, building them up and fostering unity. In moments of impatience or self-focus, remind me of Your patience and draw me closer to humility. May I glorify You with a heart full of hope. Amen.