FRIENDSHIP WITH GOD
LAY TALK
PRAYER:
Start with the Kairos Community Prayer from pg. 11 of the Freedom Guide. Read it slowly and invite everyone to join if comfortable.
INTRODUCTION (1 minute):
Hi, everyone. My name is [Michael Gentile], and I’m a layperson just like many of you. Today, I’m talking about “Friendship with God.”
In the last talk, you heard you aren't alone, you heard about people out there who care for you—who are praying for you, writing notes, baking cookies, and drawing posters. That’s awesome, right?
It feels good knowing someone is sharing God's love and concern for you.
But…what if they really knew you?
The real you, with all the mess?
Would they still want to be your friend?
Good wishes are nice, but what we really need is a true friend—someone who sticks around no matter what.
I. What is a friend? (1 minute)
A. It’s not just someone who always agrees with you or takes your side. Sometimes, a real friend disagrees if they see you heading toward something harmful.
B. A friend is:
1. Someone who wants the very best for your life.
“The very best.”
2. A friend is someone willing to give a part of themselves to help you get there.
3. Someone who gives you space to make your own choices—even if you make mistakes.
4. A friend is someone who doesn’t bail on you when you mess up but instead, they still accept you.
II. Where do you find a friend like that? (1 minute)
A. Here’s the good news!
1. God created us for companionship—to live in community with others.
2. God is love itself. He made us to love and be loved.
III. God is not an enemy. (1 minute)
A. God’s not sitting up there like a chain gang boss waiting to catch you breaking the rules.
1. What God sees as “Sin” just means we're missing the mark—God’s target for us is a loving relationship with Him and we haven't quite hit that target. It’s like the prodigal son walking away from his dad; the separation is the real issue. Repentance and Baptism (or the renewing of our vows) is symbolic of that coming back into that relationship. It's like the prodigal story says, he came to his senses.
2. God doesn’t want us to be separated from Him—He wants us close, a part of His family.
B. God doesn’t manipulate us into mistakes just to punish us. That’s not who He is.
IV. GOD WANTS TO BE OUR FRIEND!! (1-2 minutes)
A. For instance, God called the Hebrews out of Egypt and offered them a covenant—a promise of friendship. They wandered in and out of that relationship, but He kept on pursuing them.
B. God sent prophets (like Moses, Isaiah, Micah and John the Baptist) and they used their friendship with Him to spread His message of reconciliation.
C. Then He sent His Son, Jesus Christ.
1. Jesus is God—He, the Father, and the Holy Spirit are One.
2. “Christ” means the anointed One, the Liberator—like the Promised Messiah.
3. Jesus announced God’s Kingdom. He came to give testimony to the truth.
4. He offers eternal life to those who love God. Through His death and resurrection, we too can die to our old selves and live renewed.
That’s grace—a pure gift!
5. In Jesus, God’s friendship offer is complete and unbreakable.
V. Even God cannot have a friendship alone. It takes two—both giving and receiving. It’s up to us to open that door. (14 minutes)
God’s friendship isn’t a one-way street; He pursues us, but we respond.
Let me share a personal story from my life that shows how opening that door brought me peace in a moment of despair, and release from fear and anxiety, and a deeper bond with Him throughout the rest of my life.
It started when I was just 17 or 18, I forget exactly when this happened—I was a very young dad with a newborn son, married to my first wife. I wasn’t religious back then: no church, no Bible discovery, hardly any prayer.
One night, after a drive-in movie, while sleeping in our bed, the police came banging on our door. They accused me of robbing an auto body repair shop—stealing radios, assaulting a worker and his Doberman pincher dogs. A witness ID’d me, and they said my wallet was at the scene.
I was of course innocent, but I soon discovered my car had been ransacked, and my wallet gone. They arrested me, interrogated me all night, and after bail, I lived in limbo for a year. My friends, family, coworkers, all doubted my innocence; it crushed my heart.
A year later my court summons came, and as I prepared to catch the bus, panic overwhelmed me—Still in my bedroom, sitting on my bed, crying, hopeless, in my desperation, I grabbed my late father-in-law’s Bible, clutched it tight, and prayed the Lord’s Prayer over and over through the tears. I must have prayed that prayer a dozen times before finally, exhausted, I tossed the bible on the bed.
It bounced and fell open, and the first words I saw?
The chapter heading: ‘Don’t Worry.’
Suddenly assurance flooded over me—like God was whispering, ‘I’m here.’
I went to court, pleaded not guilty. The witness was a no-show, the evidence was ruined or lost, no one knew. The judge raged at the DA and dismissed the case. And just like that it was over.
The judge even pulled me aside, suggesting I sue for false arrest, but I just wanted to go home.
That miracle—God answering my cry—sparked a lifelong friendship with Him.
But don't get me wrong, it's not like I became righteous and holy overnight. No not at all, I spent years still struggling with accepting His call to faith. And I still struggle even now.
For me this miraculous incident shows how God pursues us, even when we’ve drifted far away from Him. And it ties into this Friendship with God three-legged stool here. The three key ways we can respond and build that friendship, like legs on a stool supporting us:
• Spirituality and Prayer (Leg 1):
That desperate prayer opened the door for me. It wasn’t fancy—just raw, honest words coming through the Lord’s Prayer. But God met me there, giving a very tangible sign and pouring His peace out over my fear. Now, prayer is my daily conversation with my Friend, my father, my Lord, my guide, bringing me comfort in my pain and release from worry.
• Discovery Through Study (Leg 2):
The Bible’s message that day ignited a hunger in me. I searched for years trying to find that page, which I later learned was Matthew chapter 6. And that drive He ignited in him led to a lifetime of studying Scripture word for word, chapter by chapter. And I’ve written devotionals and commentaries on what I've learned along the way. Ever since that miracle, I daily dive deep into God’s Word and that relationship with his truth has brought me joy and understanding, strengthening our bond like a friend sharing secrets.
• Christian Action (Leg 3):
This experience didn’t stop at prayer and study; it pushed me outward. That time of false imprisonment and court gave me a taste of the fear and isolation many face behind bars—even though I was innocent and freed quickly. It’s one of the big reasons why I serve in Kairos Prison Ministry today: I serve to share God’s friendship with those who feel forgotten and abandoned, just as God reached out to me in my nightmare. Now, writing devotionals daily, and stepping into prisons is action rooted in that faith that He gave me so long ago—now I'm living out His love by helping others open their doors, turning my trial into service for His kingdom. But there's more to that story...
Many years later, on that transformative moonlit night when I finally gave myself over to God's will completely, in another moment of prayer, I was on the back porch, again praying the Lord's prayer. And my second son came home and walked past me.
He asked what I was doing, and I said, "something I haven't done in a long time". And I left it at that.
Many years later he recalled that moment to me and shared that on that day he had been bombarded by many of his friends at school who all seemed to be finding faith is Christ. One after another they professed to him their newfound faith. He told me he was looking forward to getting home, sure that his outspoken, unbelieving dad, with give him solace. But to his dismay he finds me praying to God in the moonlight. He didn't know about my friendship with God. I had kept it hidden in my heart from everyone for decades. I was rebellious and not at all thankful for God's friendship. Something I deeply regret. But somehow, he never gave up on me.
I was a hard case for God. That one special, and miraculous moment, that one tearful prayer, took years to sink in deep enough for me to finally commit everything to Him. But God is faithful and good. And He built up my faith in time through all three legs of that stool—showing me through many miraculous moments and trials, how His friendship can transform everything, from despair to purpose.
VI. The most rewarding choice we'll ever make is living in Friendship with God. (1 minute)
A. It’s the only choice that fully satisfies—it's worthy of our best.
B. We’re God’s children, created and loved by Him.
C. We’re siblings of Jesus, redeemed by His love.
D. And We’re temples of the Holy Spirit, sustained by that love.
(Now reintroduce the stool concept—this sets up the rest of the weekend.)
We’ll use this wooden circle to represent “Friendship with God.” (Hold it up or point to it.)
Nothing magical about it—just a symbol. We’ll add to it over the weekend, building a three-legged stool with legs for Spirituality, Study, and Christian Action. These support our friendship with God.
Watch it grow into something meaningful for all of us. It’ll stay up here at the podium.
CLOSING:
Please bow your heads for 2 minutes of silent meditation. (Walk away quietly to give space.)