From Judgment to Grace: Embracing Agape Forgiveness in a Divided World
Romans 2:1-5
"Therefore you have no excuse, O man, every one of you who judges. For in passing judgment on another you condemn yourself, because you, the judge, practice the very same things. We know that the judgment of God rightly falls on those who practice such things. Do you suppose, O man—you who judge those who practice such things and yet do them yourself—that you will escape the judgment of God? Or do you presume on the riches of his kindness and forbearance and patience, not knowing that God's kindness is meant to lead you to repentance? But because of your hard and impenitent heart you are storing up wrath for yourself on the day of wrath when God's righteous judgment will be revealed."
In this passage from Paul’s letter to the Romans, we encounter a stark warning against hypocrisy in judgment. Paul addresses those who readily condemn others for their sins while ignoring their own identical failings. It’s as if he’s holding up a mirror: when we point a finger at someone else, we’re often condemning ourselves in the process. This isn’t just about human interactions; it’s a reminder that God’s judgment is impartial and righteous. He sees through our self-deception and holds us accountable for the very things we criticize in others.
Paul challenges us with probing questions: He causes us to reflect upon our walk with Jesus. Do we think we’ll escape God’s judgment just because we’re quick to judge? Or worse, do we take God’s kindness, His patience, forgiveness, and forbearance for granted? These attributes of God aren’t signs of indifference to sin; they’re invitations to repentance. His mercy gives us space to turn back to Him, to soften our hearts and change our ways. Yet, if we persist in hardness and refuse to repent, we’re essentially "storing up wrath" for the day when God’s full justice is revealed.
Just as when we pray:
"...And forgive us of our sins as we forgive those who sin against us..."
When we pray those words we are holding a mirror up before our eyes and we're asking the Lord to judge our hearts, our motives, and our intentions. It’s a profound act of self-judgment, acknowledging that our capacity to receive forgiveness is intertwined with our willingness to extend it.
Jesus reinforces this in Matthew 6:14-15
"For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses."
Here, forgiveness becomes a two-way street, rooted in humility and grace, reminding us that God’s standard applies equally to all. Yes, even our enemies, even those who persist in their evil ways.
This verse speaks directly to the human tendency toward self-righteousness. In a world full of division and finger-pointing, whether in politics, relationships, or even within the church. Paul reminds us that none of us are exempt. We’re all sinners in need of grace. The key takeaway is humility: before judging others, examine your own heart. Let God’s kindness draw you closer to Him, prompting genuine repentance rather than presumption.
Our human bent toward self-righteousness, is a trap that ensnares us all. We see this bent toward unforgiveness unfolding right now before our eyes as yesterday we watched the Charlie Kirk memorial. Many people were expecting speeches about Christian nationalism and being strong and "fight fight fight." But some, myself included, were waiting to hear anyone among all the speakers who kept invoking the name of Jesus Christ, to add forgiveness for Charlie’s murderer to their theme. At times the memorial seemed more like a political rally than a religious ceremony. And maybe that's because it was to a certain degree.
And I was beginning to think that forgiveness, Jesus-like forgiveness, would never show up. As great as were the many gospel oriented speeches were, they were all falling short in this regard. Then finally, Erika Kirk, Charlie’s widow, with tears and choking on the words, announced she forgives Tyler Robinson, and leading up to that moment she explained why.
"The answer to hate is not hate. The answer we know from the gospel is love and always love. Love for our enemies and love for those who persecute us."
"My husband, Charlie, he wanted to save young men, just like the one who took his life."
Quoting Jesus from the cross, in the context of forgiving Tyler Robinson, Erika is teaching us all about the source of righteousness and forgiveness.
"Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do."
And then, as the Spirit was visibly washing over her, she goes on, through her tears...
"That man, that young man … I forgive him."
"I forgive him because it was what Christ did and is what Charlie would do."
And she wasn't finished there, she began urging the audience to deepen their faith practices...
"Pray again, read the Bible again, go to church next Sunday, and the Sunday after that and break free from the temptations and shackles of this world."
Erika’s words powerfully illustrate the essence of Romans 2:1-5. In the face of unimaginable loss, she chose not to presume on God’s kindness but to let it lead her to a place of repentance and extension of grace. Her forgiveness confronts our self-righteous tendencies, showing that true humility involves releasing judgment and embracing agape love, even toward those who wrong us deeply. This act not only honors Christ but invites others to examine their own hearts, turning potential division into a call for spiritual revival.
Practice Radical Love
In light of Erika’s example, identify areas where politics or personal grudges fuel unforgiveness in your life. Pause during heated moments to pray the words from the cross: "Father, forgive them…"
Actively love your "enemies" this week, perhaps through prayer, a kind word, or an act of service. Let it soften your heart and prompt repentance. Heed Erika’s call: Commit to daily Bible reading, consistent prayer, and regular church attendance. Use these to break free from worldly "shackles" and foster humility.
And I wish I could say that I thought the world would finally get it, finally grasp the gospel fully converted to agape love. But sure as the sun rises and sets again, the vile creatures who hate God will never stop their evil ways. As Paul later goes on to explain,
Romans 3:10-18
as it is written:
"None is righteous, no, not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God. All have turned aside; together they have become worthless; no one does good, not even one. Their throat is an open grave; they use their tongues to deceive. The venom of asps is under their lips. Their mouth is full of curses and bitterness. Their feet are swift to shed blood; in their paths are ruin and misery, and the way of peace they have not known. There is no fear of God before their eyes."
Just scan through the comments on any post about this memorial moment anywhere on the social media platforms, and you'll soon see how many people are absolutely lost in their judgments. Paul's stark depiction isn’t just about "them"; it’s about all humanity, underscoring that without the fear of God, we’re all lost in sin’s grip. Maybe we're not meant to see all these millions of comments. Maybe that's why Jesus came as a man in a backward time, not in the Information Age. Maybe all this communication is the problem.
This truth plays out vividly in responses to Erika Kirk’s act of forgiveness at Charlie’s memorial. While some express awe at her grace, reflecting on their own need for forgiveness, others unleash venom, mocking her faith, bashing Charlie’s legacy, or even refusing to forgive, insisting on vengeance. It’s a mirror to Romans 3: mouths full of curses, no way of peace known. Yet, Erika’s words cut through: "The answer to hate is not hate… it is love." Quoting Christ, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do," she embodies the gospel’s power, choosing agape over bitterness.
Just hold on tight to her message as these days go on. Inspired by Erika, forgive someone who’s wronged you, even if it’s hard. Start small, letting God’s grace transform your heart.
Let's seek after God, sincere in our faith, focused on Jesus Christ. Let's advocate for His kingdom. You want peace-of-mind? Tranquility? Humbly seek Christ, forgive and pray for your enemies, and love one another as Christ has loved you. Let His kingdom become your home. Let His kingdom be your destination. Let His Spirit guide you there. In a world swift to shed blood and slow to seek peace, let’s make His kingdom our home, letting the Holy Spirit transform our hearts and direct our steps.
Prayer:
Lord God, we confess that none of us are righteous apart from You. Forgive our judgments, our bitter words, and our failure to seek You. Thank You for examples like Erika’s forgiveness that point us to Your agape love. Soften our hearts, lead us to repentance, and help us walk in peace, fearing You above all. In Christ Jesus' Holy name, Amen.