It Is Not Good For The Man To Be Alone
Genesis 18-25
Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." And out of the ground the Lord God formed every animal of the field and every bird of the sky, and brought them to the man to see what he would call them; and whatever the man called a living creature, that was its name. The man gave names to all the livestock, and to the birds of the sky, and to every animal of the field, but for Adam there was not found a helper suitable for him. So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then He took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. And the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. Then the man said,
"At last this is bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called 'woman,' Because she was taken out of man." For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked, but they were not ashamed.
Everything is still "very good", but it can be better. In fact this is the first time the Creator says something is not good. And so the Creator, observing that isolation is not favorable for his image-bearer, devised a scheme to find a solution to this situation.
Up to this point the refrain has been goodness. Light, land, plants, animals, and the man himself are all affirmed. Then comes the first negative judgment from the Creator. The man has work, a place, and unbroken fellowship with God, yet something essential is missing. He is incomplete as a solitary being.
What follows is both a search and a lesson. God forms the animals and birds and brings them to the man. The man names them, exercising the dominion given to him in chapter 1. As the man surveys every creature, none answers to him. There is no counterpart, no "bone of my bones."
What do you suppose he was looking for?
The naming process made the absence plain. Language was being used, the order of creation was being recognized; yet nothing in that parade corresponded to the man himself. None could stand with him as an equal image-bearer, face-to-face, and become one with him. None of them could look him in the face and answer as one who is like him.
He was looking for the helper who matched him, the one who is suitable because she is of him and for him. Not a pet, not a servant, not a lesser creature to rule, but a woman who shares his substance so that the two can become one flesh. That's why, when God finally brings her to him, the man’s first words are recognition rather than surprise. "At last."
He has finally seen what was missing. He was looking for the one who would complete the human pair as God designed it; male and female together, corresponding to each other, joined as one.
Before the Fall they are naked and not ashamed. There is transparency without fear, intimacy without self-protection. That openness is part of what was lost in chapter 3 and what the gospel begins to restore. Marriage still remains the Creator’s gift, given while everything was still very good; before sin fractured the relationship and introduced shame.
And what follows is the questioning of what God has called very good. The serpent’s first words do not deny creation outright; they cast doubt on the fairness of the Creator’s boundaries.
"Did God actually say…?"
This becomes an invitation to reassess whether the One who declared the world very good has dealt justly with His image-bearers. The Devil deceived her with the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eye, and the pride of life. He showed her a tree to be desired for wisdom and knowledge. She was deceived but the man was not. Adam willfully ignored what he knew was forbidden. He was aware of the situation and decided to go his own way.
The helper who corresponds is now drawn into a fracture that begins with the questioning of the Creator’s goodness and ends with the willful rejection of His word. What God had joined, and what had stood naked and unashamed, is now exposed to shame, blame, and the consequences of a choice made against the very good that had already been given.
They eat. Their eyes are opened. Shame enters where there had been none. They now possess wisdom, knowledge, consciousness. And immediately that knowing is corrupted. They sew fig leaves and hide from the presence of the Lord. When God calls, the man blames the woman God gave him; the woman blames the serpent.
The consequences follow. The serpent is cursed. This dragon is recreated into a crawling creature. It's the beginning of the inverted process. Man and beast are now by nature children of wrath.
God's good order has not changed. The tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil still stand. But the image-bearers have changed, and along-side them the world is cursed. What God had joined is now lived under the weight of the curse, and the helper who corresponds must now share a life east of Eden. God hasn't separated Himself from them, they hid themselves. They hid and covered their bodies. In shame they hid and God asked them to confess.
And what did the man do?
He blamed God.
Genesis 3:12
The man said, "The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me some of the fruit of the tree, and I ate."
The first man, the father of all humanity, was a liar and a cheat. His first impulse was to make God responsible for his misdeeds. Yet even in the judgment there is a word of hope. The seed of the woman will crush the serpent’s head. The fracture is real, but it is not the final word. This in fact is the first gospel. And the impact of this word is immediate and lasting.
"I will put enmity between you and the woman,
and between your offspring and her offspring;
he shall bruise your head,
and you shall bruise his heel." (Genesis 3:15)
The so called, Protoevangelium. Enmity is established between the children of the serpent and the children of the woman. A descendant of the woman will crush the serpent’s head, though the serpent will strike his heel. The victory will come through suffering. The helper who was taken from the man now becomes the vessel through whom the promised Seed will come.
The gift given while everything was still very good remains the design. But, as for now the woman will know pain in childbearing and a disordered desire toward her husband. The man will know toil and the resistance of the ground; from dust he was taken and to dust he will return. Death enters the world. The garden is closed. The cherubim and the flaming sword guard the way to the tree of life.
This is mankind's fate. He is no longer alone and that's good, but he is also not alone in his life-quest. The two seeds are already at war. Cain and Abel, the flood, the call of Abraham, the bondage in Egypt, the rise of David, and the exile all unfold under the shadow of this enmity and the hope of this Seed. Death comes. The ground resists. Shame is real. But the story is not over. The same God who said "it is not good for the man to be alone" and who provided the helper who corresponds now promises that the woman’s offspring will undo the work of the serpent.
This is the beginning of the salvation of man.
Amen 🙏🏼